We’ve been married for five years, and we’ve known each other for nine years since university. At that time neither he nor I had anything. We went through a lot of difficulties together, but we made it through all the trials and kept our feelings alive.
After graduation we both got jobs, and after the wedding we moved in with his parents. We didn’t earn much, but we had enough to live on. Then we decided it was time to have a baby, and I literally got pregnant within a few months. At that time it seemed to me that my husband was almost more excited about having a baby than I was. My mother-in-law and father-in-law were also literally jumping for joy and thanking me for my first grandchild.
The last months of pregnancy were hard for me, then my main job was the baby and keeping the house comfortable. Of course, I wanted to unwind and take a break from household chores sometimes, but my husband worked until late at night and hardly helped with the baby, and on weekends he wanted a break himself. Sometimes before coming home he would go to play volleyball or billiards with his friends. For me, getting out “into the outside world” is still a luxury.
My husband only helps me around the house on his days off. He doesn’t give me money for a nanny, he says he doesn’t have any and we are not oligarchs. It’s the same with the private kindergarten: they don’t take us to the state one yet, and “there is no money” for a paid one. When we choose clothes, my husband and his parents resent when things are expensive. They say I’m wasting money, because the child is growing, and things are lying around afterwards. I tried to sell an almost new overalls with pants and warm booties, failed or failed.
I have long been unable to understand where my husband puts his salary (it is exactly over 100 thousand rubles), which is so economical on everything. It turns out he wants to buy an apartment. I was happy at first, because I was tired of living in an apartment with his parents, where I can’t even make repairs to my own taste. But my husband admitted that he is taking it with his own money, so he will write the apartment to his mother, so that in case of divorce, “his” property will stay with him.
I am shocked, stifling resentment for this ispovedi.com attitude. It turns out that I work every day as a nanny, cook, cleaner, tutor, and he does not appreciate it? I gave up my career because of our mutual child, not because I am lazy to go to work, and I am more tired at home than my husband in his office!
My mother-in-law is also on my son’s side and says that they will only sign over part of the apartment to me if I put my own money into it. Where am I going to get it? I work part-time as a hairdresser at home, but I can only take clients very rarely, so I don’t get much money either. My mother says if my husband is thinking about divorce, it’s inevitable!
Is there any point in continuing to live with him if he does this? The resentment makes me want to get a divorce or bill him for my housework.
