My younger sister went to the same grade with her future husband. They got married early, at the age of 20. “From great love,” as she said, but actually by marriage. Seven months after they were married, they had a son, who is now 4 years old.
I never liked my sister’s husband: smarmy, silly, aggressive, spoiled. At school age girls like girls like that, and my sister was no exception. Our town is small, far from the capital, everyone knows each other, so our parents did not get too excited about their future son-in-law. As the saying goes, the apple comes from the tree, but the tree there is not so good – no stake, no yard, they drink, they swear, there has never been a single book in the house. My sister could have had a good future if she had gone to Moscow to study, but what now…
My sister’s husband took a job with the police after the army. He was not interested in his family, he drank, cheated, beat her. They lived in a one-room apartment, almost in the center, left to him by his grandmother. He did not bring much money home, only his salary, but he did not deny himself anything – bribes. My sister kept hoping that things were about to get better for them. My parents and I did not believe it, sighing, but we stayed out of their family. At first, of course, we did pry – my nerves are not iron, but after several scandals in which my sister took the side of her husband, we abandoned attempts to help and talk sense into them.
And then there was a “special operation. My sister’s husband signed a contract, he was promised an easy walk “as in the Crimea” for good money and new career prospects. How in the end this trip turned out, I think, and without me, you know very well. From his rare phone calls, retold by my sister, we knew that he was in the Kiev direction, that a little more than half of his brigade was left, but “they had already avenged those creatures.
A few days ago my sister came running to me in tears and said she was getting a divorce. The reason was the packages she received from her husband in Belarus. The parcels contained four expensive phones, gold and silver jewelry, cosmetics, women’s and children’s clothing… Some was new, even with tags, ispovedi.com from looted stores, the rest was probably stolen or from dead bodies.
After her story, my husband and I were shocked. I mean, we didn’t expect much from our son-in-law before, but we didn’t consider him a murderer or a looter. But if a man’s moral principles are so atrophied that he sends his own son looted clothes, how can we go to bed with him? Especially after the rumors about what our army was doing to women in the Kiev suburbs… And his leaked telephone confessions about “revenge” are also not saying anything good. There are other reservations that I do not want to write about on the Internet, albeit anonymously.
What to do, neither I nor my sister know yet. Her high-school romance, along with drinking, cheating, and beating her husband has already weathered, but she just has nowhere to go. No education, no work experience (before maternity she worked half a year as a waitress), the figure after childbirth floated, no savings, too. Plus the work now can not find, and rising prices. If after school and before the birth of her son ispovedi.com she could try to move to Moscow, now it is clearly not going to pull even with our help. I will give her money, of course, but my husband (worked as a cook in a restaurant) is also about to lose his job, and we have rented accommodation. She does not want to say anything to her parents for obvious reasons, and she will not ask them for money.
My sister hasn’t said anything to her husband yet, because she is afraid he will just kill her in secret. He was not very well-balanced even before the war, and after everything he went through, he must have gone completely nuts. But she cannot bring herself to live with such a husband.
Please advise what to do. Maybe you can see better from the outside. Thank you in advance for your advice on the case.
