Two years ago my girlfriend left me. We lived together and had already made plans to get married.
I was of dense build and started gaining weight. Alyona did not like it, she made me run in the morning, go to the gym. Even my food is controlled, all the time counting calories. It annoyed me terribly, but I kept quiet. I myself was uncomfortable that I am fat, but to lose weight is not possible. The problems were added to the fact that the girl is slim, athletic build. But it’s not her merit – in their family, all thin, and my mom is fat, and I look like her.
We finally fell out when she found some fashionable diet and set an ultimatum – starve, but lose weight. But I’m not a little girl, I’m a man! I like to eat, I like meat, not fruits and vegetables.
My mother, when she found out what I was eating, was horrified. Called Alyona and told her off. Said she wanted a healthy son, not a beautiful one. The girl was offended that her mother was interfering in our relationship, packed her things and left.
And I started eating even more amidst the stress of the breakup. I am very acutely experiencing the breakup and my loneliness.
Recently I found out that she has a boyfriend. I try to get on with my life, distract myself, but nothing works. Now I myself am looking for ways to lose weight and regret that I did not agree to her diet. But at the same time, it would be a temporary solution – I could not sit on a diet for life?
My mother calmed me down, saying that I should look for a girl also prone to obesity. But I have lost all desire to get acquainted, there were complexes. It seems to me that everyone turns around and point fingers at me that I’m fat. Well, how fat. At 1.78 I weigh 102 pounds.
A friend tells me that I’m not fat, but strong and massive, and I shouldn’t go along with a cranky girl. But this is his way of calming me down – he has a normal figure himself, he’s married and happily married. I am not jealous of him. It just hurts that I am not perceived as I am. Not all people can be slim and beautiful. I, for example, judge a person (including girls) not by their external appearance, but by their behavior and lifestyle.
Maybe who has managed to lose weight, please share how? I would be grateful for any advice.
