I’ve never seen anyone interfere and tell an adult what to do. I only encountered such a problem in my new family.
When I lived with my parents, we used to say, “You’re an adult and you decide for yourself, if anything, we’ll help you with advice. And here you don’t even decide how to celebrate your birthday – and that’s terrible. About the rest I’ll say nothing, because for me it’s too much.
Of course, when you appreciate family and friends, it’s a good characteristic of a man. But when too much and it already pisses me off. Even their opinion is more important than his wife.
It was my husband’s birthday a couple of days ago. We somehow decided to have a quiet, comfortable place to sit by ourselves. I went and arranged for a place to be prepared in advance. And I did not want to celebrate in noisy places, as I am pregnant and it is already difficult for me, it is not a little term (8th month). In my position it is difficult to be somewhere for a long time to sit and go to nightclubs.
But the day before the holiday his relatives came in, especially his cousin sister and grandmother. Without his consent, she had already booked a place in a nightclub and paid money, and he had to agree. It took two hours while it was all sorted out.
I didn’t start nagging him, what was the point? If I started, nothing would change. That’s the way I’ve been living my life for two years now, that my opinion doesn’t count here.
At a birthday party my family came and waited for us (my husband and I). My husband got held up at work and had to wait for him at home. We arrived, there were already salads on the table, of course, thanks already prepared everything, but even the choice was not allowed to make, as always.
On my birthday and I was not given a choice. My husband said, “Let Grandma look at it and decide. I just wonder how you can have that attitude without knowing the preferences of another person?
And at the hot meal was the same, his sister jumped in and began to choose for all. I’m shocked, such a feeling that she is my husband’s wife, not me. Barely sat there for a couple of hours, hookah smoking the neighboring booths, music, girls passing by. You, hopefully, understand what kind of girls are there. My cousin ispovedi.com didn’t even call her husband to a place like that, so he wouldn’t stare, and mine, it means he can.
I’m surprised at his patience and comportment. His mother commands him and does not allow him to go out for a long time, to be home at 10 pm, and it does not matter how old he is. But he is no longer a little man!
I don’t have the patience to live in a family where Grandma and his sister rule. Grandma always has the last word.
God will soon have a child, but I do not want our child to be the same, to be commanded and guided. And plus will be constantly telling me with the arrival of the baby, how to bring up, what to do, etc.
How to solve this problem, I don’t know. No matter how many conversations I have with my husband, there is no result. My husband is not bad, but this I can not stand, it is too much for me. As my parents say, maybe I am wrong for keeping quiet and not being able to express my opinion. But if my husband can not, where ispovedi.com I can not get involved.
Help advice, please, maybe someone has faced this situation. Divorce is certainly not the answer, and constantly nagging my husband and pushing for something, I’m tired, already infuriated. And to close my eyes and tolerate it all, I can no longer.
