We are married to my spouse for love, passion, interests, mutual understanding, principles and habits. We have two children, whom he loves, raises, and provides for. Our relationship is different, but in general it is strong, big, good – everything suits us, my spouse suits me too. Our phones and the kids all our lives without passwords, as there is trust, and there is nothing to hide.
There is a hobby – to play shooting online, there is a clan (a group of 60 people). There are both guys and girls, men and women, both married and not. Spouse shares his thoughts and experiences, talks about them. There is also communication between them in the same watsap group.
From another clan played a girl Nastya 33 years (husband, three children). Then she wrote to my spouse herself on watsap, they say to write to each other about the game. Then she started asking personal questions, emoticons, various topics, she wrote that it is interesting to her with him and that she likes him. That she misses him now, that she is bored at home, her husband is uninteresting, she is accustomed to him, etc. Sometimes my husband will tell me something himself, like, “Nastya writes – go play with her and the others. I was not worried about it.
Then I felt that something was wrong with us, we had been missing communication for a month already. I took the phone in the morning, read texts and voice messages, there were no photos or video calls.
I did not like the correspondence, I got upset, there was a lot of things, so to say, communication as with her person – more, of course, she needed, and he answered, and then something too ask or joke. There was no talk about me there, only that there was a wife, a kind wife, and that she came from work.
My employer is a man, a widower, I work as his children’s nanny. The pay is decent, I have a track record of 15 children in parenting and love, I like the kids, I love them.
Saturday evening, after a delicious dinner, we sat down to chat for a bit, I say.
– Alexander (the employer) called us to the park. On Sunday, so the kids have fun.
My husband strained something, said, why together, I replied that I refused. He asked for my phone, I passed it on. I took his phone, too, look watsap, there is just an unsigned number (it is Nastya) with a masculine expression with a short haircut on his avatar. I read their correspondence (as if for the first time).
I say:
– You know I do not like your communication, we are family people, and she got bored here. She likes you, and you reply that you like her as a person. How am I supposed to understand that?
I told him everything, shared my experiences. He asked what he was doing that made me feel uncomfortable. I said that all communication is unpleasant for me, but I can see that you are fine with it. I’ll pack your things and communicate elsewhere, without me.
That, it turns out, is why I didn’t get much communication! I already know that I will not live that way, I will not be able to, it’s not my thing. I told him – do it.
He, of course, did not expect. Seeing and feeling the power of my right decision and facial expression “deed in action”, he began to ask what the decision, and that he would not go anywhere. And so I ispovedi.com not to get upset, he will not communicate, since it does not mean anything to him.
I took it and deleted her number. Then we went into the game together and he deleted her from there, and made a block on the invitation and blocked. Said I didn’t have to worry, it somehow got personal on its own, but she was nobody to him and he wasn’t going to get a divorce because of it. Asked for forgiveness. Everything was going great with us before that, I just didn’t know how to act. For two or three days I felt bad, worried, of course, forgave, let it go, I don’t think about her.
My confidence in myself and in him was always there. We celebrated our 20th anniversary, everything was and still is good – attention, love, care, work, relationships, hobbies, holidays, children, relatives and friends… We are connected by many things, there is mutual respect and understanding.
Her family is what it is all about. It’s not interesting there, it’s boring. This Nastya doesn’t want to expose herself to her husband for fear that her husband will find out. This is from an unwillingness to do anything to improve relations in her own family, she got involved in someone else’s, dreaming of a married man. And I am accountable to my every action, pure, faithful, and sincere, as a woman should be.
