I never thought I would come to complain about my mother. The problem, in my opinion, is not worth a damn, but my mother has switched to “either my way or no way” mode and has not communicated with my granddaughter for six months now.
I am the youngest child in the family, I have an older sister, she is married, and she has two one-year-old children. I am also married, have a daughter who has been going to kindergarten for six months.
The older sister’s children are naturally older, and I have seen how their mother (grandmother) looked after them in all their glory: there was yelling at the children, abuse, and ignoring the children’s allergies. My sister and my mom used to fight about it all the time. My husband and I did not want that, so we did not even consider my mother as an option to help with the child, especially since she is a respectable age – three-quarters of a century already lived.
So when the child began to get sick in kindergarten, we solved the problem with the help of a nanny. We knew the woman, she looked after our goddaughter, so that her competence and model of education to us was familiar and quite satisfied. The price of services was also adequate ispovedi.com.
The problem came from where we didn’t expect it. Mom, when she found out that the child is engaged in the nanny, immediately started a scandal on the theme of “stranger could hurt her baby. Did not work for her neither assurances that we know the man, nor that we are all satisfied.
It turned out much simpler: on the same day my sister called me and started reprimanding that we could have paid money for my mother instead of a nanny, and so we feed a stranger. I generally can’t stand it when people pry into their business, so I asked her rather harshly how much she personally paid Mom for babysitting her kids. And I assured her that as soon as she paid the full amount, I would consider hiring Mom, too, so be it. My sister, of course, was offended, but I do not allow anyone to pry into my life.
Then my mother began to defiantly ignore my child. For the new year gifts were only my sister’s children, although we celebrated together. But it’s not about the gift, she does not even talk to the child, pretends that she simply does not exist.
In January her daughter had a birthday, her mother did not even congratulate her granddaughter. When I asked her how long this was going to go on, my mom made blank eyes and said that she only had two grandchildren.
To say that I was offended is a polite way of saying nothing. She doesn’t want to know my child, so you can’t force yourself.
But here’s the rub – my mom really needed to move. Her sister took her in and her husband was adamant about divorce. Then my mom went to beat the rapids to me. Well, mom is mom, you need help – I will help, the more the house we have a big. But there’s one thing but: my question about how she sees her communication with her granddaughter, my mother said that as soon as I give birth, then she will help me all, and while my husband and I do not have children, she plans to rest from taking care of grandchildren. My husband listened no further, and threw her out the door, saying that as soon as his wife has a mother, he ispovedi.com will be ready for a dialogue, but for now his wife is an orphan.
My sister and relatives have already cut off my phone, with claims of my cruelty.
How to let go of anger? Because I already sent my sister with a swear word, saying that if she wants to help so much, then let her divorce and help. And my family is, first of all, my child and husband.
